Article by Wendy McCance
For years I have dreaded my kids hitting their teens. I had heard so many horror stories of once close families fighting like cats and dogs. Disobeying rules, talking back and getting involved in some bad situations based on some horrible judgement on the teens part.
Thankfully none of my fears came to fruition. I really believe that I had a much harder time when the kids were tiny. The experience was still fairly new and I was still getting used to my title as mom.
The worries were much more different and in many ways more intense. I would worry about safety, if my kids were excelling in school, did they have enough friends and were there friends good kids to hang around with? Did my kids remember their manners? Were they mature enough to handle a new milestone? There were so many new situations and so much growing that life when the kids were little was much more challenging.
These days the kids have fallen into routines. They have good groups of friends and they are polite and well-mannered. The milestones are fewer and further between and I know the kids know how to stay safe.
I have a more mature relationship with the kids now. Instead of barking orders and reminding them of how we run our home, we can hang out and talk on a more even playing field. The major obstacles have been lifted. These days it’s all about tweaking this or that to fine-tune their place in life.
New worries have surfaced that I didn’t see coming though. Now it’s all about how serious they take their future. Are they preparing well? Do they study hard enough and do they have some solid goals for their future? Will they be successful individuals once they are out of the house and off on their own?
Having teens hasn’t been that up and down rollercoaster of emotions, rules and learning experiences. The challenge of having teens has been to make sure every last minute counts and that they have absorbed all the good advice needed to navigate a future successfully as adults.
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