Article by Wendy McCance
How aware are you of that voice in your head? The one that encourages you or gives you reason to doubt when going after your goals?
Over the last year, I have seen my goals become clearer and brighter. I have never felt so focused, determined and strong. I know what I want to achieve and I’m doing my best to block out any negative thoughts. I encouraging myself to continue moving forward in a kind, gentle way. I make sure to celebrate even the tiniest successes and really enjoy the journey.
Trust me when I say that it isn’t as easy as it sounds. I have built up beliefs after 40 odd years of living my life that are hard to break. Without realizing it, I had formed patterns. I became good at stalling, doubting and doing practically anything short of giving up.
This last year hasn’t just been about reaching goals, but really about changing an entire way of thinking. I am becoming aware of how I hold myself back and how I can correct the damaging thoughts.
Each day I think about where I’ve been and how much work I have done to get to the place I am now. I spend time feeling grateful and proud of my new strengths. I listen for those inner feelings that tend to hold me up from moving further ahead. I fight a toxic thought several times each week.
That’s my battle right now. Instead of picturing all the ways something could go wrong and the bad feelings associated with those moments, I conciously look for the good and allow myself to feel the excitement of what I see unfolding. I picture the happiness and the feelings of accomplishment I will have when I get over another hurdle. I picture what will be around me. What it looks like and how positively friends and family will react.
I have learned that there is a delicate balance. To succeed, you need to work hard, but you can’t force things to happen. When changing negative thoughts, you must be kind and gentle with yourself. Frustration and bullying your way to think in a more positive will only be more damaging.
If you can change your habits, you can change your life. It’s all about breaking down the thoughts, and being aware of the negative feelings and actions that occur rather naturally. Replace those bad feelings with feelings of gratitude, happiness and peace regularly and you will see a shift begin to emerge. Become aware of the negative actions you perform like stalling or freezing in fear and replace those actions with activity that gets you moving. It takes a lot of work, it is worth it. I am aware of what I am doing, and how I feel doing it. I have grown tremendously over the last year and although I still have moments of struggle, I am seeing a new path emerge. Things I never thought possible are happening every day. As long as I continue to embrace the positive events, as long as I continue to believe, amazing things will continue to happen.
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