Article by Wendy McCance
This morning was beautiful. It was sunny, not too hot or too cold or windy or humid. A very pleasant morning. My husband had worked (I’m not kidding you) a 15 hour shift plus 2 hours round trip for a total of 17 hours. When he got home he decided to mow the lawn. Why? Because it needed it, but also because it was an opportunity to enjoy the outdoors for a moment or two before going inside and getting some sleep.
So, after he mowed the lawn, he was feeling a little wired and decided to sit on the porch and have a drink before getting to bed. I joined him and we had a great conversation.
We spent quite a bit of time talking about the move we are planning across the U.S. We listed off all of the things we couldn’t wait to do once we got settled into our new home. We also talked about where we were at now and the what needed to be done to get to our goal.
During our talk it dawned on me that this was the last piece of the puzzle for me. I have amazing kids and a husband who is my best friend (it was like winning the lottery ending up with such a good man). I also have a dream career. I feel very lucky to be a writer. The fact that I work from home is icing on the cake. And now, I will be moving to the place that suits me best. I’m in awe of what my life has become.
The funny thing is that each piece of the puzzle that completed me came at a huge price. I met the man of my dreams, but had gone through a horrible marriage when I was young. I went through an ugly divorce, but learned more about who I was, what type of person I wanted to be in a relationship with and how to communicate in a more positive way before I met the man I was really meant to be with.
I have a writing career I love and I get to stay home too. But, this bit of luck came on the backside of struggling with health issues that made it difficult for me to work outside of the home. I had to find a creative way to make a living and I was lucky enough to fall into a career as a writer.
Moving to another state will actually be the first thing I have done for myself since my early 20’s that is a decision based solely on what I want to do and not what do I need to do to survive or need to learn to have a better life for myself. It’s an incredible feeling. Very freeing to know that for once, I get to be in charge of my destiny instead of the other way around.
So, here I am almost touching 50 years old and I am finally 100% in charge of a small piece of my future. I GET TO DECIDE!!! When you have had blow after blow of bad situations, many of which couldn’t be controlled, the feeling of taking charge of your life and fulfilling a dream is incredible. I will finally be able to see the completed puzzle. One I have worked on for far too many years. I can’t wait to stand back and see what it looks like to have everything in place and finally feel like I am living the life I was meant to live.
My wish for my kids is that they will always follow their dreams. That they get an opportunity (no scratch that) they CREATE an opportunity to do all the things that make them feel complete. I want them to be able to check off their own list and get the satisfaction of living their life just as they wanted to live it.
You only get one life. It will be full of twists and turns and moments that upend all of your planning. It doesn’t matter. Get right back in there and continue to follow your dreams no matter what. Nothing should stand in your way. Not fear or health or money or other people and their opinions. This is your life and if it is important to you, you will find a way to make it happen. I should know, I have dealt with all of these obstacles and fought my way right through them. You can too!
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