Article by Wendy McCance
I am stumped wondering why we grow up so interested in other people’s opinion of what we can do. Most people need to bounce an idea around and ask for opinions before leaping into the unknown. It’s a disastrous way of going about your life if you ask me.
I got an email the other day from a person who had been sharing their writing journey with me. My heart broke when I read that they had found a mentor who was a writer that they really looked up to for advice and the advice they got was to throw in the towel. They asked me what I thought and I told them to live the life they want to live and not the one someone suggests you should live.
Here’s the thing about advice, many times it’s really bad. Someone might care about you and thinks they are trying to help you avoid making a mistake, but unless you are in danger and need immediate help, encouragement is all that should be provided.
The reason I say encourage even if you think the person might hit a dead-end is because it is their journey to take, not yours. By avoiding trying something that excites, you not only limit your life experiences, but lose out on the potential of the right path showing up.
I have seen people who will start out with a particular dream in mind and go for it. Along the way, they will have an experience that redefines the best path for them. Maybe they dreamed of being a journalist and along the way found that they were more suited to being an author. There are tweaks that naturally occur when you allow yourself to try out what you like.
You might think you would make a fabulous musician and then realize that your talent lies in teaching music more than making music. How will you know what fits if you don’t try a few things out. With this perspective in mind, a person giving advice saying to throw in the towel because you don’t have the talent is really ridiculous. No one knows where you will truly end up, and what will work out best, not even you yourself until you try.
You Have All The Power!
You are given one chance to live your life in the best way possible. Why would you ever let someone else tell you how to live that life? You could be living a life where you are doing what you love most. Your biggest dreams could come true. It is up to you alone to decide how big those dreams will become. What will you achieve in life and what will make you happy. I know I wouldn’t want someone else to outline for me what my life should be like. So why bother asking someone else what you should choose to do? Even if they have experience and might provide some insight, remember, they only have an opinion based on what they have personally experienced. There are many more ways to get from A to Z than what they have tried.
Life is so precious and in the U.S. at least, we are very fortunate to be able to choose how we live. Freedom, free will and endless opportunities are right in front of us. Celebrate that fact and go after your dreams. Forget the naysayers. These are the people who have limited visions of the possibilities. They can only base their feelings off of their own experiences and their experiences are limited and their sense of adventure is weak.
These are people who like to play it safe. These are people with the biggest mouths who will be more than happy to shoot down any dream that seems to airy fairy for them. These are also the people who will be right at your side letting everyone know that they know you and knew you before you became something big. They will forget how little they encouraged you when you were struggling. Forget about these people. Celebrate with the ones who cheered you on and stayed positive through the whole experience.
You have the power so go out there and make yourself happy doing what you love! Only you can make you happy. Only you can create the world you want to live in. You decide each day who to be friends with, what to do with your day, what career you should have and so on. You can surround yourself with positive people and do positive things for yourself or you can surround yourself with toxic personalities and drag yourself miserably through each day. You have the power to decide how you will live and what you will choose to do. Start looking inside yourself instead of relying on outside help. The best most fulfilling life will be created for you when you jump in and take control of what you personally want your life to be like each day.
You Have All The Power!
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