Article by Wendy McCance
My kids call me overprotective. They think that I worry too much and hold on too tight at times. I understand why they say what they do. The kids have spent half their time with their dad. Over there, there was very little parental concern. The kids spent way too many days watching themselves when the oldest was just out of elementary school and the youngest was in kindergarten. They were given free rein over bedtime and countless other things that were in sharp contrast to the way I have been raising them.
Look, I’m that mom who is very schedule oriented. The kids will come home from school, get a snack, do their homework, eat dinner about 5:30pm and go to bed at 9:00pm.
I like that the kids know what to expect. I want the kids to feel safe, protected and loved. They need to know that they have a parent who is being a parent. That their job is to just be a kid. I wish that they never had to wonder when a parent would be home, when or what dinner was or if they were making it themselves. Being alone at bedtime with no one to tuck them in or read them a story breaks my heart. Although I hate to see them grow up so quick, I am grateful that they are now older and better capable to take care of themselves.
On days I have the kids, I stay in the car when I drive them down to the bus stop. The youngest are in middle school now, but it is still somewhat dark out and I want them to be safe. I am thrilled to see that there are a few other parents doing the same thing at the bus stop each morning.
My daughter was asking me why I was so overprotective the other day. Compared to my mom, I am extremely laid back. Even so, I was almost kidnapped at the bus stop when I was young. My ex-husband knew of a girl who walked up to a party store and was abducted. I am just fine with being a bit overprotective. I would rather be more watchful than regret something I should have done.
I do have to mention that as the kids have gotten older, I do my best to give them some extra room to grow on their own. I might not let my middle schoolers go hang out at the park with friends on their own, but they can go to the library to study with friends or shop with friends during the day in some small communities downtown districts.
So, yeah I am overprotective. I know it and will openly admit it. Even upon reflection, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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