Article by Wendy McCance
Question: Do you see the gifts you are receiving when you are going through a rough patch?
The other day I wrote of feeling stuck. I was having a bad day and I felt like every bad thing that could happen was all happening at once. I felt like I was being buried alive. I couldn’t see past the negative and as I had put it in the post, What Should You Do When You Are On the Right Path and Get Stuck? I was truly stuck. I received an outpouring of support, advice and comments from people feeling the same way.
A few days after the post, I was jolted out of that feeling of being stuck. I am humming along again happy and content. What I would like to express, particularly to those who can relate most to the place where I was at was that I saw the gifts. I’m not sure how else to explain this, but I put out to the world that I didn’t know how to make the next move, I questioned what I have been attempting to do which is to write and turn it into a career. Most importantly, I listened to closely to outside voices who doubted what I was trying to achieve.
To push myself past the negative emotions, I calmed down and quit trying so hard to force a result (thanks for this advice Laura). I then went ahead and examined what I was trying to achieve, asked myself if it still felt right and was putting so much energy into writing the right thing for me. Honestly, it was a 2 second review. I love writing with all of my heart and I don’t think I could follow any other path even if I pushed myself to. Lastly, and the aha moment came when I thought about all of the great things that have happened even in the worst of moments over the weekend.
I have been given an opportunity to spend more time with my kids. Again this week, the kids dad is going trapping and last night I was asked if I would watch them for 4 more days. I only see the kids half of each week and miss them terribly when they aren’t here. To get additional days is the greatest gift I could get. Originally, the kids were to stay with a relative on the ex-husband’s side of the family (kills me when they can always stay here). At the last minute, the relative had their son come home and an in-law pop in for a few days. They had a full house and were unable to watch the kids after all. Amazing how everything works out in the most unexpected ways.
I was feeling down about not having a job and all of the effort that I have been putting into writing which doesn’t pay the bills. In the last few days, I got a great review about my blog which made my day. I also started getting emails from some groups I participate in with advice on how to get published in some magazines.
Once again, I see everything coming together. I need to stop being so hard on my self, relax and allow myself to see all of the good that is working around me. If you have read my post, Why a List Works, you know that I love to make them. I became inspired to create a list of the positive things that happened each day. It’s unbelievable how much good has been around me. I have been receiving many gifts and so many signs that my path is the correct path for me. I just need to relax and enjoy the ride.
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