Article by Wendy McCance
If you could step back in time and change something you did, what would it be? This question popped into my mind last night. I was hanging out with a group of people and I was catching up with someone I hadn’t spoken with in quite a while.
We were talking about what the future held for her. She described how she was thinking about moving half way across the country. She thought it would be a great experience to move to a location that was warm and sunny all the time. She wanted to be in a location where there was a lot of outdoor activities and was really quite different from where she currently lived.
I said that it sounded great and that it was the perfect time in her life to be adventurous. She is free in that she isn’t married with children, her parents aren’t old and in need of their child’s support and she has a career that would be easy to find where she is heading.
This is when I started thinking about my life when I was her age. I had always figured that once I was out of school, I would move out of the state. I was determined to move back to Montana. I lived there for several years and truly missed being there. When I was young, I was fairly uncertain of my ability to pick up and move on my own. Honestly, although I moved out of my home at 18 yrs old and was determined to make it on my own, moving out of the state was a whole other thing.
I know that doing things differently would have had some really harsh consequences. I wouldn’t have my children or the husband I adore. Putting the consequences aside and just concentrating on experiences, I really do wish I had pushed myself more. I could be so brave up to a point and then I would hit a wall.
When I moved out of my parents home, I had a job that gave me enough money to barely squeak by. I didn’t even have a car when I signed a lease with a roommate. Moving out of the state was a whole different thing. Somehow I could never find that confidence. I still remember my worries. It wasn’t about finding a job, place to live or would I make friends. My worries were downright ridiculous. I had never traveled alone. How would I figure out the airport? How would I get my things to another state? These were issues I had never tackled. It seemed so very far out of my comfort zone that I didn’t budge.
The only other time I had really tried to make my dream of moving a reality is when I had met my ex-husband. I was brave enough to try to move with someone in tow. Unfortunately, he loved where he lived. He had always lived in the same state and had many family members that lived close by. His ties were to tight for him to break them and move out of state.
So I pose the question to you. If you could have done something significant differently what would it have been?
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