Article by Wendy McCance
Ever since I got divorced, I have been hypersensitive to what the kids lives are like growing up. Your only a child once and I want to do all I can to insure that their childhood is happy and full of great memories.
Once you are an adult, there are so many responsibilities that crowd your life. Being a kid should be about play. Of course the future is important. Getting good grades, participating in activities and really preparing for your future is part of the responsibilities of growing up. As far as I am concerned though, there is no other time in your life that you can have moments of complete freedom where the heavy responsibilities of living your life don’t weigh you down from having some mindless fun.
I have always felt guilt over not being able to give the kids the fairytale childhood. The one where the mom and dad stay happily married, live in a nice house in a nice town and money is easily come by.
Of course my childhood vision of having a family didn’t turn out the way I had thought it would. Life can throw you some rough curve balls. You just have to stick it out and make the best out of your situation.
I lucked out in that I have a nice home now in a nice town. My new husband treats the kids and I wonderfully and although money isn’t easily come by, it has been steadily improving as the economy has begun to bounce back.
This weekend, I took a moment to reflect on where we had been and where we are now. I thought about what the kids were doing this weekend and it made my heart happy realizing that they are doing what kids should do.
On Friday the kids came home from school and did their homework. Later in the evening there was a dance that the younger kids went to and a sleepover with a friend. On Saturday, the girls went ice skating and their brother played football with the neighborhood kids. All of the kids will get to visit with some family later tonight. They will have dinner and a sleepover and get a chance to have some bonding time with their relatives. Sunday, the homework will be finished and the bedrooms will be straightened. The girls are thinking about going ice skating again. I have plans to cook a big pot of chili with one of the kids.
This is the childhood that I wish on every kid. Time with friends and family, fun activities and a chance to just do what kids do best, play!
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