Article by Wendy McCance
Ever since my decision to go into real estate, homes have been on my mind, a lot. I have had this strange theory for years and I’d like to share with you. I think the home you choose can be a possible predictor of future events that might happen in your life.
I don’t know if you have ever had this feeling, but have you ever walked into a home and felt either anxiety or happiness about it? Maybe the home had a loving vibe. Possibly there was something off and a little unnerving about the home. It’s harder to feel I think when there is a ton of bustling activity and a real stamp of the homeowners personality on it. When I am visiting a friend or a family members home, what’s going on within the house at the time can be a real distraction from the feel of the actual house.
I know this sounds unusual and maybe you have never thought of this or focused in on it. I have bought 3 homes in my life. I have visited dozens of homes while looking for the next home I would buy. I could get a sense of if the home felt safe or a little creepy when walking through (even if the home was empty of furniture). I have to admit that my sense of what felt good was off when I got my first home. I realized years later it was because my own sense of what felt good was out of whack as well.
My first home was a small bungalow. When I went to visit it, there was a single old woman who lived there. I was really strapped for cash and so my criteria for a house was to have a home big enough for a baby (I was pregnant at the time) my husband and I. The home was clean, had 3 bedrooms and was in an acceptable neighborhood. This home that we moved in to was the home that I had a volatile relationship with my ex-husband. By the end of the marriage, police had been called and there was a restraining order in place. During the years that I lived in that first home, I heard stories about the single woman who had lived in the house previous to us. She was married to an abusive husband, she was raising 5 children in this 1,000 sq. ft. bungalow and she ended up getting a divorce. Her husband committed suicide (my ex-husband attempted the same thing).
The next home I lived in was a quad in a beautiful upscale neighborhood. My new husband and I bought the home from an investor. We bought this particular home with 5 bedrooms because we wanted each of our children to have their own room. We had an extra bedroom that we were hoping would be for a new baby. The years we were there were wonderful. The home was spacious and always filled with friends and family. It was definitely a house we enjoyed doing a lot of entertaining in. We never did have a baby, but the extra room got some great use out of it. We were fortunate to have the extra space to accommodate first one relative while they finished college and then another relative as they were getting back on their feet.
This was the home we ended up losing to foreclosure. Some time after we had moved into this home, we started hearing about the family that lived in this house before an investor bought it. The family had an extra relative that lived with them (a grandma). The home was the party house and was known for weekly poker parties and card games. Neighbors hung out at the home often (it was the in place to be). The family lost their home to foreclosure in the end.
The home we live in now has only been occupied by one other family. The man and wife that lived here bought the home when it was first built. They (according to neighbors and from the way it looks today) lovingly took care of the home. Everything was in perfect condition and they went well beyond with safety features like a sprinkler system, burglar alarm, uv light to protect against mold in the basement. We found out the couple was happy and had family over a lot. They moved into a retirement community when they sold the home and are still happily together (fingers crossed that my future plays out as nicely).
I know divorce is rampant these days, but a friend of mine a while back told me of a home across the street from her that is beautiful. She said that it was a dream home that would turn into a couples nightmare. She has lived in her home about 10 years now. She calls the house across the street “the divorce house.” She has seen 3 or 4 different families move into this home and within a couple of years, there is a nasty divorce and the home goes back up for sale. She hasn’t seen an amicable divorce yet come out of that home.
I remember the home I grew up in from the age of 7. Our family had moved to Michigan from Montana and from a 1,000 sq. ft. ranch style home to a 1,600 sq. ft. colonial. For a little kid, the home felt big and exciting and I couldn’t believe the cool home we were moving in to was where I would be growing up. I do remember that it also felt slightly off. Sort of impersonal. It just didn’t have that warm cozy feel to it. Years later I found out that the family that had been living in the home before us divorced. This was back in the early 70’s when divorce wasn’t common by any means. Sure enough, years later my parents divorced as well.
I’m not saying that if you buy a home where something sad or bad happened it will happen to you as well. I do know that I have a number of additional stories I could mention in regard to the strange coincident of the mirroring that takes place in a home between different families.
This is what I believe. I believe that there is a feel about a home. I think that unconsciously people pick up on it when they are looking to buy a house. I think that the state in which your life is at when choosing a home is based on a certain comfort that is matched by what state your mood is at. When people are in a loving comfortable relationship, they can search out and instinctively find a home that mirrors where they are at based on the current occupants way of life. The same goes for an unhappy family. Their comfort revolves around a home that feels a bit uneasy. It’s familiar so it becomes a sort of comfort of what feels right at that time in their life.
So, you might think I’m a bit off my rocker on this subject, but test it out. Think about your own experiences and those of your friends and family. Let me know if you see a pattern or maybe I just need to stop thinking so hard. Either way, you have to admit if there is even a grain of truth to my theory, it is pretty interesting.
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