Where do the Nicest People in the United States Live?

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Article by Wendy McCance

Continuing my search for the ultimate in a happy life, I started thinking about where I live.  I have lived in several states and truly believe that there is a difference in the way people behave towards one another as well as what ethics are important to them.  Because I was a small kid when my family moved around, I think that my memories are probably a little out of date from what people are like in the places I had lived, now.

I am so burnt out from fakeness and superficial lives.  I desperately want to live somewhere where people are HONEST and KIND to each other.  Is there a state where people are more concerned with these attributes as well as leading a more peaceful life?  I am not inerested in living somewhere where material possesions and an attitude of it’s all about me are the ways in which people live.

As I get older, I am so turned off by gossiping, stepping on others instead of putting out a helping hand and lying that I am starting to lose faith about the goodness in others.  I know deep down that there are still many wonderful people out there, but I believe that since the economy went to hell, we are left with stressed out, people who are at their worst because of the additional stresses that they had faced or are still facing.

I would love to hear from you and get your opinion on where you think people are more laid back and welcoming to each other.

Here are some links you might enjoy:

The Friendliest Towns in America

City Friendliest Towns in America

America’s Friendliest People

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Wendy McCance is a Michigan based freelance writer and social media consultant. Wendy has gained attention as the founder of the popular blog Searching for the Happiness which can be viewed in 9 local papers online, including the Oakland Press. The combination of writing skills and social media knowledge is what makes Wendy such a powerhouse to work with. Stay tuned for opportunities to advertise, guest post and as always, have your questions answered.

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24 thoughts on “Where do the Nicest People in the United States Live?

  1. Please don’t think that Tennessee is a nice place to live. People here are fake and unless you completely become southern, you will be left out in the cold. I prefer to call this state Hellessee. Summers here are just a little better than the front porch of hell. It really is the people that have ruined this state. I’d give years off the end of my life to have the chance to move back to Indiana. Until the Good Lord heals my wife of her lung issue, I am stuck here in Hellessee

  2. Anyone who says ANYWHERE in the southern states has more nice people than mean people doesn’t understand your quest. Oakland is way nicer than Dallas, and Dallas is probably the nicest city in the South. I would not rcomend it unless you’re a racist republican. I don’t know ANY nice repulicans.
    I am an old guy, have lived all over the US. I have been fortunate to meet the hand full of nice people in most of those places, but the rest are, what the grandkids call Selfies, like the photo.

    People overall worship themselves.
    People overall don’t care about global climate change. Which in itself is selfish. Selfish equals mean.
    No one cares that less than 1% of the global population has over 40% of all the money in the world. If they did, there would be a real revolution.
    We buy clothes made by children for pennies a day. We put petrol in our cars, every time we do so we tell the Cartel, “its OK to bomb that country, wipe out that village, pollute our waters”
    As long as we have our stuff.
    Until we change our philosophy as planet, we are fucked. Mean people will out number nice people everywhere.

  3. I came across your post as I am searching for a better place to move to. Many think that South Carolina is a friendly state but I must say that I lived here 18 years and I can’t wait to leave. I am sure some places in SC still have the friendliness it once had, but Columbia (the capital) lost its charm over the past 8 years or so. I used to love Columbia and enjoyed the friendly “rednecks”. Not sure why this place changed so much but now it’s just full of whiners who are all about themselves. I am originally from Europe and wonder if this may just be due to how stressed out people are due to the current economy; when money flows, everybody is happy–but when it doesn’t, everybody is crappy! Best of luck to finding a better place.

    • Thanks so much for your comment. I have yet to see a pattern from the comments pointing people in a particular direction. Maybe someday there will be that aha moment.

  4. DO NOT come to the South!!! I have lived in Florida (born and most my life), Pennsylvania, briefly in Minnesota and now Texas. Texas by far has the most UNFRIENDLY people I have ever met! They are so fake. They act nice to your face (not all the time) and talk about you behind your back (and to your face). I am so miserable hear but we bought a house. I’m about to short sale my house just to get out of here. I think the Carolina’s,especially South Carolina has very friendly people. I’ve never lived there but I have visited and LOVED it!!

    • Hi Stephanie, I’m so sorry you have had such a bad experience. There’s nothing worse than gossipy people. It sounds like such a toxic environment. I hope you get to South Carolina soon. It sounds like a great place to live!!

  5. Georgia is, hands down, a sucky place to live in. I’m not sure about the countryside of it, but the suburbs of Georgia suck to live in. Everyone is rude and disrespectful and has an “all about me” attitude. I can’t WAIT to leave.

  6. Did you end up finding a place? I myself am looking to relocate my family of five to a similar life. Where everybody loves and accepts eachother just the way they are. I hate life in Cali. And even more so in the OC.

    • Hi Kat, sorry you aren’t happy in California. It will be quite a while before I am in a position to move. Honestly, I’d like to move out of the country. New Zealand is very appealing to me.

  7. Hi there,

    Just came through this page with the same issue as you. I moved since 15 years to costa rica and think it comes close what you are looking for. The only proplem is when you move to the touristic places where the foreigners live you just find the same as at home. The most autentic and nicest people are the ones who are not much in touch with us. There are still communities here who work well. If you have better ideas, please let me know. Capitalism and communism are sucks. AAhh at last!! If you want to see the most unhappy people go to Germany!!!

  8. I am having the life sucked out of me! I need to go. Even my own family ridicules me if I don’t put on the fake happy face (in the privacy of our own home) and pretend everything is great. I can’t stand fake people. I need to be with nice people, caring people, the people who do things for each other just because. Does anyone know what that means anymore?

    • I’m so sorry you are going through such a rough time. I understand your feelings of wanting to be around nice, authentic people who care about others, not just themselves. I went through the same feelings when I started the blog. I hope you find some peace in your life. Sending you kind thoughts, Wendy :)

  9. I grew up in a small town in northern Illinois and have since lived in Michigan, Wisconsin, Maryland, Delaware, Alaska, Nevada and Louisiana…hands down I have found the south to be the friendliest and most relaxed of all of those places

  10. boy, your post struck a cord with me. i live in MA. i have felt lately that people seem to be more rude and rushed than ever. it’s gotten to the point where i wonder if i should actually consider moving to a different part of the country where people are friendlier, where people are not rushing around like maniacs. i don’t know where that is. i think of the stereotypical south – slower paced, nicer people, but i don’t know if that is the reality. i realize there are rude, troubled people everywhere, but it seems like the ratio has gone up. it’s rare that i find friendly attitudes when i’m out running errands, shopping, etc. i also wonder “what is the rush??” people drive so fast. how expensive does gasoline need to get before people slow down to get better mileage?

    anyways, i don’t know the answer to your question, but i’ve got the same question too.

    • Hi Jen, It’s reassuring to know that other people are wishing for a more relaxed, friendly place to reside as well.  If I ever find that place I will definitely write a post about it.  In the mean time, I hope that overall your experiences with the people where you live are more pleasant and friendly than not.  Thanks for your comment.


    • Thanks for the comment. I agree that a place where there is hate isn’t a place where one could truly be happy. A community where people are more concerned with including others and supporting one another rather than working on being better than others or finding ways to feel more exclusive is what to me would be the ultimate in happy inner peace.

    • I have lived in a small town in the midwest all of my life (Springfield, Ohio, population about 70,000), and I can tell you that this is one town you definitely DO NOT want to live in. Almost everyone here lives in there own world where their attitude is “it’s all about ME all the time”. If you are a person like me who was raised with old-fashioned values (the one thing my grandmother always used to tell me the most was that I should always treat others the way I would want to be treated), people try to walk all over you, or they think that you always have an ulterior motive if you you do something just to be nice. I found this post while searching the internet to find out some places that would be worth moving to, because I feel like this town is just sucking the life out of me, and the atmosphere is so bad that it hardens you just out of self-preservation.

      • Hi Roxanne, I’m so sorry to hear that you are having that experience. I have never been to that town, but have been to other places in Ohio that have been really nice. All the best, and I hope you find a town that more closely fit what you are looking for. :)

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