Article by Wendy McCance
Today was going to be the day that I worked on my book. I wasn’t going to go near this blog to check stats, reply to comments or anything else blog related. Well, so far I have done everything except to work on the book. I have straightened up the house and started some laundry, took a nap and scoured the internet for one reason or another (not for anything productive).
I have written one post a day on this blog almost 100% of the time. It’s addictive and I enjoy it. I also feel like I am not completing a goal or staying as focused as I would like if I don’t write. I admit it, I have a blog addiction.
Today I was reading my email and came across a video on how to land on the front page of the Google search engine. The idea was to do guest blogs and then your numbers would soar and you would end up on the coveted front page. Maybe there is some truth to this, but if you type in happiness or life I am already there. Although my blog shows up on the front page of these searches I can assure you that I do not have thousands of followers. I do have 80 followers presently which I think is great for someone who has written this blog since the end of February. Just over 2 months of writing.
I was thinking about these stats when I had an epiphany. Why am I so wrapped up in numbers? I started the blog because I had a lot on my mind. Initially I was writing for myself without a thought about who would read this or how many people would become fans. I was writing because I loved it. I was hooked and it made me feel good.
When I didn’t take into account that there might be an audience, my voice was completely raw as though I was writing in a personal diary. As time went on and I became aware of others reading what I wrote, I was still completely straight forward, but the knowledge that others were there did make my voice a little lighter and my topics a little safer. What I have realized is that I don’t want to lose the edge to my writing and I don’t want to focus on the addiction of reading the stats page.
This brings me back to my epiphany. When I did what I loved without thought of where it was going, I had some great moments. I was invited to join a “by invitation only” group, I got a great review, articles got published , I was nominated for 2 awards and I really got to know some wonderful readers. Once I started focusing on the end result and pushed to make it happen, things stalled out. My comments slowed down, the energy I felt every time I was on the blog felt weak and I haven’t had the same big moments I was experiencing on a regular basis previously.
It’s important to have goals and go after your dreams. There is a difference though between being aware of what you would like to see happen and forcing the process. I can be impatient and need to learn to relax and move with the flow of this blog instead of pushing every angle to the hilt. I don’t want to turn people off like a used car salesman.
Have you ever had an experience like this on your own blog or because of some other situation when you wanted a certain outcome and pushed too hard for its success? I would love to hear your comments on moments like this that you have had, what made you realize that it wasn’t working and what you did instead. As always, I really appreciate hearing from you and gaining some additional insight from your experiences.
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