A Post for My Husband

It’s been months since I have written a post on this blog. I was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma a few months back and my life just came to a halt. I was in shock. I tried to blog while waiting for my diagnosis, but once I heard I had cancer, I just fell apart. I took the posts down, the ones describing the tests and the waiting and the diagnosis. I was afraid that I would lose clients if they knew I had cancer. I just froze up and lost any idea of what to do next.

Now I’m going through a second scare. I will be having 3 biopsies at the end of the week because a few lumps and some calcifications were found indicating that I might have breast cancer. Yep, it has been one heck of a memorable year.

So why, have I finally decided to write a post after all of these months? What was it that got me typing again? Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary. I will be celebrating 9 years of marriage with my best friend. My husband has always been incredible, but it’s times like this when your world gets turned upside down in the worst possible way that you really see a person’s soul. I have been so overwhelmed by the amount of love and kindness my husband has shown me that it inspired me to write just for him.

This is my letter to my husband.  I want him to know just how much I appreciate him.  He is truly the love of my life. When I was little, I was like any other little girl wishing for the prince who would come along on the white horse and sweep her off her feet. I knew it was just a fairy tale and that real life was much more complicated, and yet, somehow, my wish came true minus the white horse.

I won the husband lottery. My husband has a heart like no other. He will work all day, come home to a wife and three kids and take care of all of us with an enthusiastic energy he projects even when I know he is truly burnt out. If I am exhausted or feel sick and need to lie down, my husband will jump right in and make dinner, drive kids to activities and will do anything else that needs to be done. If I get up, feeling guilty about placing so much on my husband’s shoulders, he will gently lead me back to bed and assure me not to worry. I know he is tired. I know he is scared too right now, but when I watch him, all I see is love and tenderness.

My husband has been there to wipe my tears and hold me when I am scared. He has gone to doctor appointments with me and held my hand each month while I have blood drawn. He has maintained a profound sense of strength about my situation and an attitude that all will be okay even when I was falling apart. It makes me feel safe to lean on him. I don’t know how I would cope without him.

So, July 23, 2006 is a day I will always remember as a turning point in my life. My best friend became my husband and a great dad for three kids. Happy Anniversary Mike, I love you with all of my heart!

A Video Worth Watching!
Some videos speak volumes and this one really hit home. I love this video. When I saw it, all I could think about was how lucky I was. I knew what love like this was like.  Check out the link here, but beware, it is a real tearjerker.

Wendy McCance

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35 thoughts on “A Post for My Husband

  1. Hi Wendy

    Thank you for your heartfelt post and for sharing this very touching video. Happy anniversary and know that many people have you in their prayers including me!

    Please keep writing 🙂


  2. This truly has been a grueling journey for you, my friend. I’m so happy you’re not alone on it and are joined with that special someone, your husband, to help carry you through whatever the future holds. Love is stronger than anything and will be there in boatloads for whatever you need. God bless you, Wendy, and guide your every step. You’re not alone. Love and hugs! 🙂

  3. Happy Anniversary, Wendy! What a beautiful and inspiring tribute to your love. Thank you for sharing. Sending love and healing energy your way!

  4. Just got back from Pelee Island in Canada & read your anniversary letter to Mike. I’m so happy for you to have such a warm caring soul mate. I do keep up with how you are doing. All of us, Ronna, Darryl & Renee and of course myself are praying for you and Mike and the kids and the rest of your family. With all my love, Aunt. Marlene

  5. You, my dear, are truly fortunate. You have found what we all want and I couldn’t be happier for you. With your positive attitude and his love and strength, you have found the key to a wonderful life. I think about you every day and wish I could be there to help support you as well. All my love to you.

    • Thank you. I wish I could help everyone else find their soulmate too. Can you imagine what the world would be like then? Thanks for the wonderful comment. It means the world to me.

  6. Happy Anniversary to you guys! Thank you for sharing this with us. It brings so much inspiration to many people out there! I admire your courage. My prayers are with you and your family.

  7. Happy Anniversary, Wendy. It’s good to hear from you again. I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers for the very best outcome. Take care of yourself.

  8. This is an amazing post and I am so glad you found your best friend and soulmate - I haven’t found mine yet! He sounds like an incredible guy who loves you very much and I am so very glad he takes care of you like this. He restores hope in mankind. I hope all of the cancer goes from you and that you can be cleared of it for good. Love you so much xx Thank you for all of your help and support over the years and for being my blogging and Facebook friend. You are so gorgeous and beautiful. I really wish for you to be well again soon xxxxxxxx

  9. I have worried about you. When I started to see you again on FB I knew you were trying to get back to some kind of normal even though you were sharing great stuff rather than writing. You have always been so strong. I hope the writing you shared today will lead to more if you are up to it. Sending hugs to you and all your family. They all are in this with you. The are scared right along side you. It is so good that you know that they love you so much. Please get well. We all are looking forward to reading your great inspirations when ever you can share.

    • Thanks you so much for the comment. It’s true I have been trying to will myself back into writing. It’s strange, I just went numb and couldn’t even come up with anything to write about. Trying to resume a bit of normalcy so hopefully the posts will start flowing again. Thanks again for the sweet comment. 🙂

  10. Happy Anniversary Wendy and Mike! What a sweet tribute you both. I know that when we are privileged to have such a deep connection with a loving an nurturing man it is can take our breath away at it’s sweetness. Surely a love like that can carry you through anything you must face. Sending love and prayers to you both. ~Kathy

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