Article by Wendy McCance
I have done a lot of thinking about rules. It seems that every article or book I have read recently has had a similar theme. The people I read about had all lived life their way. They ignored the rules and made up their own.
I love reading stories about the road that people have taken that led them to their dreams. People who have been brave in pursuing what they loved and were able to ignore the critics along the way. Sounds easy, maybe, but I believe that it is one of the hardest things to surpass. There is doubt, inexperience and fear already churning in a person when they try to go after what they are most passionate about. It’s easy to look for advice and be swayed to give it all up when you hear negative responses about what you are aiming for.
You look up to someone who has been there and if they say you can’t do what you are trying to pursue, you give up. Why not? I mean, they have been down that road and they must know the pitfalls that you are in the process of navigating. If they say it won’t work, then it surely won’t. This is the mindset of too many people who have walked away from what could have been their happiest moments in life.
Right now, I am reading Richard Branson’s autobiography titled, Losing My Virginity – How I survived, had fun, and made a fortune doing business my way. I’m only a few chapters in, but the story is truly worth the read. Here is a man who was miserable at school. He was dyslexic and was failing almost every class he took. At the same time, he had a spirit for adventure and loved a challenge. He didn’t follow the tried and true path, but made his own as he grew up. It was that ability to ignore negative advice and trust in his own vision that made him who he is today.
When I decided that I would become a writer, I did everything wrong (according to all the advice floating around out there). I have fibromyalgia and couldn’t hold down a traditional job. It was too difficult to try to navigate around my health problems and be in an office each day for 8 hours or more. There were times I was in too much pain to sit or to stand. It was difficult to focus when I was exhausted. I couldn’t work my issues around a given schedule. It didn’t matter what job I chose, I was failing miserably at working outside of my home.
I realized that my best chance for success was if I could call the shots. I needed to set my own hours, decide when to interact with others and honestly I was sick and tired of having someone else decide how much money I would make. I wanted it all. The money, a better lifestyle, feeling excited about my work and avoiding one more day of fear associated with how I would manage to conquer another day at the office.
I had gone through months where my soul was battered and bruised. I felt embarrassed when I couldn’t excel at work in the way I once would have been able to. I felt the pressure of staying extra hours when my body just couldn’t take it. It was time to revamp the way I worked and take a giant leap into the unknown.
When I became a full-time writer, I had no savings, no back-up job and no college degree besides an Associate Degree in Liberal Arts. I didn’t know any writers and had no idea how to get writing assignments. It was a bold move that I made. Many would call it foolish. I called it trying to survive. I had no other plan in place so if I failed as a writer, I couldn’t even imagine what would have happened. I didn’t entertain the idea, I just got to work.
Being able to work when I feel good and rest when I need to has been the best thing I could have ever done for myself. I can work any day or time of the week to accomplish what I have set out to do. The amazing thing is, it worked! I love my career, make good money, feel challenged, enjoy the people I work with and have complete control over my future while doing what I love most.
I never followed society’s rules. I blocked out any negative feedback and just focused on what I needed to learn. I worked my ass off to achieve what I wanted most. I have found that (for me) I have made good, solid decisions by researching everything I have questions about and then I pick out what resonates with me and proceed. It’s staying true to myself that has propelled me to the place I am today.
I had a consultation with a client a few weeks back. They called me for advice on how to become more marketable and to put a plan in place for their business. One of the things we talked about was blogging. This person wanted to build a blog around their writing business, but was continually drawn to speaking about things that would inspire a person to move forward with their life. The question was if both could be integrated into one blog. All that negative noise about what the proper way was when setting up a professional blog had them confused. I thought it was brilliant for them to integrate their professional and personal side. Personally I have found that when you show your authentic self and truly lay it all out there, people respond well. There is more trust because they can understand who you are. They feel closer to you as an individual, and who doesn’t want to work with someone they trust and feel they understand? It also helps weed out the people who have trouble connecting with your personality which saves a lot of miscommunication and frustration because the personalities don’t mesh well together.
The client I was consulting was excited to know that they could do what they loved most on their blog. I pointed out that what works well for one person doesn’t always work best for another, but if they could ignore the “rules” and listen to their own heart, what they put together will succeed because it is genuine.
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