Article by Wendy McCance
If you have read this blog before, you know that I over think everything. It’s just my nature to have a childlike curiosity about everything around me. One of the things that I tend to do is analyze and look for ways to improve my situations. I do this even when things are going great.
I have always had a fear that if I don’t stay on top of things while they are going well, those same things will get neglected, become taken for granted and begin to crumble. I have witnessed this scenario with many couples around me. I don’t think I will ever take my own marriage for granted.
I cherish my marriage. I am married to my best friend. He is a wonderful man and I love him dearly. There are so many things in life that can get in the way of a good relationship. Work, kids, friends, family and any other obligations, commitments or other areas of your life can be distracting. It’s so easy to let a marriage run on auto pilot. You’re there for each other and know the other person will understand when your attention is needed elsewhere, so you put it last on your priority list.
The problem is that this can develop into a pattern. Once you start taking your significant other for granted, the sparks die down and the relationship becomes dull. People need nurturing, encouragement and fun. You look to your partner to recreate those feelings that were so strong in the beginning. What happens though if they are hard to find?
So, back to the fact that I over think things. I know I drive my husband crazy at times, but if we start to veer off in separate directions, I push to get us back on track. To much time apart and I ask for a “date day.” Too tired to get close to each other? Tough I say, get over it and snuggle up.
There have been moments where my husband thinks my worries are a little overboard, and that this is just life. Thankfully, he understands and is game for keeping things sweet between us. My view is that you only get one life. Who says that I need to follow others leads and allow my marriage to get ordinary. I crave excitement and joy from my marriage. I am bound and determined to never take what I feel is so very special for granted.
How do you feel about this subject? Do you just go with the flow and allow things to just run their course? Are you the type of person who tends to put a lot of effort into your relationship? I’m curious to know how other people treat their relationship. Especially those who have been together for quite a long time. Words of wisdom are always appreciated. 🙂
P.S. I found a wonderful article that ties in beautifully with this post. I am happy to say this article is from one of the blogs submitted on the opportunity page. Please check out Hot Cup of Love and the link here: http://www.hotcupoflove.com/lovechallenge/ It’s really a very good blog.
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