Article by Wendy McCance
I was watching a show last night about how your thoughts and actions affect your ability to succeed or how they hold you back. I reflected on my own thoughts and actions. Sometimes I have this feeling that I can do anything. I am my own biggest cheerleader and I make tremendous progress with whatever my goal is at that time. Other times, I am going through some depression. I become unfair to myself. I feel that things are out of my control or I hit that dreaded roadblock where I simply can’t move like I’m stuck in cement. I literally can’t figure out how to get to the next step and panic sets in.
Over the years I’ve realized to relish the side of me that is comforting, positive and a go getter. I’ve also seen that negative me is a bully to myself and someone who I am not interested in being around. Although difficult, when negative me appears, I do all I can to shut her up and move past her, I’m better than that.
These days I feel like I am on a remarkable path. I choose to rain encouragement and love onto myself. Negativity has no place here and gets shut down fairly quickly when it appears. The lesson I am working currently is in regards to courage. I don’t know about you, but I have no problem starting a project no matter how big and seemingly out of reach always seeing some small success. What I came to realize was that when I reach the point that the future shows some bright spots and the universe starts to spin in a most positive way, I chicken out of jumping to the next step.
I don’t know if I am explaining this well enough, but I am afraid that when it looks like I could succeed I shut down. This is not because I’m afraid of success. I realized that I am afraid I won’t in the end see success. I will have disillusioned myself. I don’t know how to have real success or how that feels. I mean the success that comes from years of hard work and becomes a part of your daily life as a normal way of being. When I realized this fact, I was crushed and mad at myself all at the same time. I couldn’t believe that I had so little faith in myself.
No one knows the exact steps to success. It’s not like a recipe where if you follow each step success is certain. Just to clarify, I’m not talking about going to school, getting a great degree, finding a good solid job and working your way up the corporate ladder. For me, the success I’m speaking of is entrepreneurial success. Making your way through the unknown and creating success out of nothing more than an idea and a lot of gumption. I’m also not speaking of small success where you are squeaking by on what you have created. I am talking about big success. The type where people know of you and your income gives you an opportunity to breath easily and give freely to others.
I have decided that this one truth is the ugly reason that I haven’t gotten further with a million ideas I have attempted to prosper off of. It is time to slow down and reset my thinking and actions. Each day I must be hyper aware of negative thoughts and actions. I will show myself love and kindness and give continuous encouragement throughout the day. Most importantly, I will soak up each positive sign that pops up with the enthusiasm of someone who has won a big prize. After all, in the end it is the journey that is so exciting not just the end result.
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