Article by Wendy McCance
How many times do you buy into the excuses you try to use on yourself to keep yourself from gaining success? Are you aware of those negative thoughts that hold you back from reaching your goal?
I have some lofty plans for myself this year. I know what I want to achieve, but recently I have been catching myself making up excuses to avoid what could be some great outcomes.
Let me explain.
I have goals that I have written down. I have gone into great detail about what I want to see happen by the end of the year. I have planned out how I can achieve these goals. So far, so good, except that my new sticking point seems to be self-doubt and excuses.
Why would I fear possible success? I believe it is because I am afraid that I will either make too big a deal about an opportunity that doesn’t pan out (I don’t want to face any disappointment) or I will find some success and won’t know what to do next.
Although incredibly honest, even as I write this, I am disappointed that it’s come down to this. Really? These are the things that are holding me up from continuing my pursuit?
It’s incredible how many times you can hit the wall on your way to your goal. You can see what the end could be like. You feel excitement over the possibilities, and yet, time and time again, your emotions will take over and sabotage all that you are trying to achieve.
So many things have held me back along the way. I could make up the excuse that I didn’t have the time. I could convince myself that my own personal goals weren’t important enough to strive for when I have a family to taking care. Was it really that important to get all of the dishes out of the sink at that moment? Did the house really need to look picture perfect at every moment? The kids were doing their own thing, but what if they needed my attention? Better not try to get any writing in for fear that I will become distracted and miss a cue from the kids that they needed me.
There have been times where I turned down meetings to go to writers workshops because I felt shy and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know anyone. How would I integrate myself into the group?
The list of excuses goes on and on.
Everyone has had similar experiences at one time or another. What’s important is to recognize these moments and push through the uncomfortable feelings. So what if I feel shy? I bet there are other people at the workshop who feel the same way. I know I will feel a huge sense of accomplishment by pushing through my fear.
What about you? Are you having trouble keeping your goals? Do you recognize the things that are keeping you from accomplishing what you are setting out to do?
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